Guest blog: One woman’s adventures in deepthroat

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One of the most popular things I write about is also one of the most ‘Marmite’ – you either love it or you hate it: Throatfucking. Deepthroat. Enthusiastic head.

Some people, like me, are big fans of it. I like it not just because there’s a joyful sense of satisfaction and achievement if I can swallow the whole of someone’s cock. That’s nice of course but what really makes my cunt throb is the noises that he makes when I manage to get it right in. The moans at the back of his throat when the head of his prick slips down past mine, and my lips touch the base of his shaft. Yet for all those who love it, there are others who’d rather stay shallow and avoid the choking fullness of the whole palaver.

This is by way of introduction to this week’s guest blog, and to explain that if you’re one of the latter people, and deep throat just isn’t your thing, then this blog probably isn’t for you. If, on the other hand, this kind of head turns you on like nothing else, then you’ll be as pleased as I am to read Beth’s guest blog. Deeply filthy, intensely hot, and very Not Safe For Work, here’s her deepthroat adventure…

Adventures in deepthroat

I can’t breathe as I push myself further forward, my throat contracting around his cock, asphyxiating from the inside. I don’t panic, not any more, gripping the root of him to feel his pleasure. I’m safe here, loved and wanted. Tightening around him, pushing him against the roof of my mouth with my tongue—he loves his dick being constricted. I take his shuddering moan as my only reprieve. Swallow, gasp and breathe.

It’s taken a long time for me to get here, about two years, and for the first few months it often felt like I wasn’t going anywhere. I’d asked him to show me videos, thinking the visual aid might make it seem easier. Far from it. Those porn clips boasted women swallowing dongs of ridiculous lengths without so much as blinking. My heart sank to see it. It seemed unattainable, when I was struggling to take much more than half of my love’s prick. But it all takes practice (yes, that old chestnut) along with a generous dose of desire.

The first thing I had to learn was how to breathe around him. It’s all very well for the tips to say ‘take deep breaths’, but when I can’t, even for a few seconds, I panic. Not that I’m complaining. It’s another level on which I lose myself when I taste him. It was a lot of effort at first. Taking him as far back as I comfortably could, swallowing, pushing just a little further. Trying again when it got too much and I had to come up for breath. This went on for weeks on end, to the point of infuriation. Obviously, I thought, it was something wrong with me. I’d tried out all the advice we could find, and I wasn’t getting anywhere. Some nights we’d both get frustrated, and I’d feel so inadequate that I couldn’t fall asleep. But god, I was a fucking idiot to think about giving up.

Suddenly, after months of practice, it seemed to just happen. All I needed was to ease him past the opening to my throat, just for a moment. To feel him twitch, the choke of his flesh tense against mine. To hear him moan and stroke my hair. The panic transformed, the tight feeling moved from my chest to my cunt. I knew then that I was starting to get it right.

His touch is what makes it for me. I could spend the longest time sucking his cock with his fingers in my hair, or light on my back. I forget who and where we are, in a state of trance, keeping my breathing steady. It’s just his body, mine, and the all-consuming want between us. There is no outside, embarrassment or inhibition. He reaches down to me, and I hold his hand as I fill myself with him. There is nothing hotter or more romantic than feeling the palm of his hand on mine as I fulfil his need. His teasing finger on my clit relaxes all of me into the drowsy warmth that falls near sleep, and I can swallow all of him. I feel the shock of his pleasure under me. He whispers that this is perfect, close to tears, the balance shifted. He’s desperate to come, but I’m the one who chooses when. I bring him close again, and again, until he shivers all down his body and begs me, ‘faster, deeper’. The reflex as he shoots down my throat makes my satisfaction raw, more real, as I curl up against him.

Two years ago, I thought giving deepthroat just came naturally to some people, that they were a lucky few. I wanted so badly to give my other half that experience, and when I tried those first times, I couldn’t help feeling that I was only average, didn’t have the flair of sexual confidence those few did. As I kneel for him, just to feel him swell into my throat, those thoughts seem far more distant. All of the frustration made it all the more beautiful to hear him cry with pleasure. And the next day, I felt like I could do anything, and I knew that confidence had just been dormant all along.

Thanks Beth, for the super-hot blog, and for sharing your story. I’m off for a lie-down, but before I go a brief public service announcement: for some reason throatfucking more than anything else stirs guys to email me asking: ‘my girlfriend hates the idea of deepthroat, how do I get her to do it?’ The answer is ‘you don’t.’ Deepthroat is like pretty much any other sexual thing: some people like it, some people hate it, and some people are indifferent. There is no standard set of sexual acts that anyone ‘must’ do, or even feel obliged to try.  While you can show your partner hot blogs and videos (or audio porn about throatfucking – hint hint) and talk to them about your fantasies to see if they’re tempted, you can never ‘get’ someone do something they don’t want to do. And nor should you try to ‘make’ them, obviously. Explore your fantasies in ways both of you are comfortable with,and don’t be ashamed of the things you love, but please don’t make anyone else feel bad if they don’t share the same passions as you.

 

18 Comments

  • Guy says:

    Lovely post. Happy memories of the girl who preferred this to anything. What’s with the squeezing your thumb to deal with the gag reflex: anyone got experience of that working?

  • Stephanie says:

    I absolutely adore throatfucking my husband. And from the sounds he makes, so does he.

  • KitKat says:

    Amazing blog, I loved it! I can’t deep throat hubby more than once or twice in a blowjob before I gag (he’s just that inch too big hehe) but oh the sounds he makes when I do it…although a lot of guys I’ve talked to about it love the gagging too; I’m thinking its just the fact that you’re trying to swallow their full length?

    • Girl on the net says:

      I’d be interested to know, actually, whether it’s specifically the sensation (i.e. getting your cock to the back of someone’s throat) or the noises/choking, or the ‘dominance’ aspect that’s hottest. Presumably it’s a combination of all three, and individual guys have different aspects of it that they find hottest, so basically I just want to ask lots of guys this question so they’ll give me sexy chat by way of an answer =)

      • Taylor says:

        For me its definitely the noises/choking. the sensation is good (although I’ve never gotten my cock all the way down before) but what turns me on the most is the girl gagging on it.. couldn’t tell ya why.. lol

      • Ben says:

        As a dude who finds himself not only with a wife who regularly gives great head, might I say, I feel extremely LUCKY to be with one who will have my cock stuffed into her throat AT ALL (I AM suggesting this is not the norm) slowly or roughly! However, from recollection after trying this many times, I must say it has EVERYTHING to do with the position in which it is received/given.

        Am I on my back? Are you trying to get me AS. HARD. AS. POSSIBLE…before slamming, grinding, and riding your way to MANY. PLEASE! ORGASMS!? If so…fucking awesome! Sounds like a treat! It’s almost ALL about sensation from this position. There’s a “closeness” to you knowing just how sloppy/slowly/roughly/deeply we like it, and you’re giving it to us while we’re really in a “no-control” position. Wanna make it even hotter? Tell us why you’re doing it. Ask us if we like it. Tell us you’re getting us hard because you just need to fuck (like we don’t fucking know what that’s like!).

        Are you on your knees? Regardless of if I asked for it, or you got down there on your own…you’re down there…and because, because my testosterone tells me I need it…sometimes that cock needs to feel the back of your throat. It NEEDS to find how deep the thrust can go, because every MILLIMETER makes it feel that much better! And if you even TRY to push my cock into it’s depths, or I tell you to stop so I can find it myself (albeit, typically slower in this position), it definitely is NOT all about sensation. Again, position is everything here, and as we stand over you, in various states of dress and location, the noises you make as I attempt to force my now wet cock to every available depth, your hand’s position on my body, the rhythm of your delicious sucking mouth…it all just takes it to the edge.

        *Sidenote – I especially enjoy doing this in front of a mirror because of the added visual – sometimes the curve/sway of your tits as you slide your mouth up and down my length. Sometimes, if I’m REALLY lucky, you’re ass is in view also. And you’ve got brightly colored panties/knickers on – thong or other type, accentuating your ass that I can see over your back or in that mirror (you knew guys were visual, right).

        The third type I am privy too is with your head over the side of the bed while you’re on your back. NOW, #1, this is not a position my wife has ever gotten into on her own, so because of that, this is a strictly dominating position for me. More specifically this last time, she came home from work while I was on the phone with a customer, and I told her she needed to put something else on – something sexy. The domination of her throat and very loud fucking, shortly after my phone call was done, started long before we started touching each other that day. It actually started through text….WHEW…ANYWAY…as she was rolled over, her hands on my ass cheeks, spit running towards her eyes, and her mouth gaping for its next fill, I continued to fuck her throat until I pulled out one time, she took a deep breath and yelled “You have to fuck me now!” Again, visual comes into play of course because your tits are right there for my playful hands, and if I stretch a little, so is your pussy….BUT dominance is surely most at play here. Your noises/airflow/choking are all at my disposal (*save me!) AND sensation is whatever I want it to be because your mouth and throat will take the abuse I give it in this position due to this is understandably the easiest way for me to get the deepest into where my dick WANTS! TO! BE!

        I’m going to go fuck my wife.

  • Guy says:

    Ok, it’s purely about the sensation, when it’s well done. Noise/choking is in fact a turnoff for me (those skilled at it don’t choke) and dominance irrelevant. The feeling of being entirely and tightly enclosed, with a tongue pressimg on the best places, sliding back and forth milking me….actually got to stop typing now

  • Him says:

    Guy is right in some ways. There’s a feeling of sliding into a throat which is kind of like the first time you penetrate a tight vagina (and as everyone knows the first time you slide into a girl during a sex session beats every other thrust, bar one – the relief that you’re getting what you so desperately crave, the fact they haven’t properly stretched to accommodate you yet). The gagging/ slurping noise can be hot – I once knew a girl who was very eager with oral and got those noises without deep throat which was cool because of the enthusiasm she had for it. A previous girlfriend has not really enjoyed oral but was capable of deepthroating at a whim without any ‘gagging’ – she could basically determine the end of a blowjob by when she decided to put me down her throat. The eager girl was far more fun – despite not being able to pull off the deep throat trick anywhere near as well. This did lead to some issues (pun intended) – notably once to ‘avoid the mess’ I was going to finish in her mouth after a missionary quicky and it went down the wrong hole choking her. I genuinely thought I was going to have to explain to the police that I’d drowned my girlfriend with cum.

  • Fan of the velvet says:

    I love the feeling and sound, but the visuals of thick saliva flowing between fingers and webbing from lip to tip and pooling thats the icing. Its beyond primitive aggressions there doesn’t have to be any force on my end just signs that she’s taking us there. Some women breath like they are swimming, between the strokes others through the nose some push the limits with each breath with a side affect of “di*kdrunk”. Its really a trance a woman find herself in once shes beyond panic and fear. Trust is gold and an empty belly puts less stess on her. Im into scalp neck and back play (along with things i cant share dont want anyone to copy) but if a woman isnt turned on its no fun… Spitters n swallowers have nothing to do with tasters and avoiders… Its fun seeing where a ladies preference is before and dancing on the line of respect her uncertainty can be flirtatious but in the end dont burn THAT bridge guy…

  • austinkonga says:

    I guess I am too big, because dozens have tried and all have failed.

    • Girl on the net says:

      Hi. You left a second message with your email address in, which I’ve had to remove. Please don’t post personal details here – there are dating sites aplenty for that. Cheers x

    • Chris says:

      Called dealing with amateurs or women who are not into giving the full effort.. They will tell you they want to just to keep you happy. Trust me I would know fixing to get engaged to one now that loves it and does extremely well at it … First one I’ve had yet that can and wants to. Something for you to think about.

  • abdghret says:

    I love my boy friend cum in my throat with his huge dick. It feels awesome. I suck his shaven balls too and suck his dick and cum it.
    I love splashing it on my face and body and eat it. I love cum in deepthroat.

  • YoungStud says:

    Girl on the net, can you tell me how you would deepthroat me? Never been deep throated before and im a tall handsome 24yo. would love to here the dirty talk if you could??

    • Girl on the net says:

      Search the blog – there are quite a few dirty stories on there, lots involving deep throat.

    • Chris says:

      Young stud that was a sad attempt at a sexual convo lol js. And fyi all of us mid 20 fellas are technical young studs … That’s the slang term now days for a younger male

  • Foxxee says:

    Thank You so much for this, I thought I was alone in my love for the trance and throat massage that is deepthroating. My SO thinks I’m Telling him what he wants to hear—It doesnt help that the act seems unpopular outside of porn.

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