Buttplugs, pegging, and pushing the fuck back

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If I’ve lubed you up and spread your legs, and held your hips steady while I slide something deep into you, there are plenty of things you can do to let me know you appreciate it. Make that face that’s a cross between surprise and pain, grunt a guttural moan at the back of your throat, or place your hands somewhere on me and squeeze tightly while I move. But when I’m fucking you – whether I’m pegging you with a strap on or sliding a butt plug deep into your ass – there’s one thing I want you to do above all others: push back.

Push.

Back.

The first time I screwed a guy with a strap on it was pretty tricky. Hot, but tricky. One of those ‘eyes bigger than your stomach’ – or ass – things, and before we got down to it we both wondered whether it would fit.

When we were more practised, and delighted to have this brand new pegging trick in our sexual repertoire, we found the key to smooth access, and it didn’t involve me clumsily wiggling the strap on a bit to get it at just the right angle. It’s hard if you’ve a dick you can’t feel through – like threading a needle with your eyes closed. It seems like it should just slide in nice and easily, but realise you haven’t a clue what the angle should be. Loads of lube, a guiding hand, their happy moans as you test with your slick fingers and then… awkward movements, as you try to push in at just the right angle.

The key to easy access, it turns out, is giving more control to the person getting fucked. Not in a weird admin kind of way – “before we begin the rampant pegging, you need to place part A in slot B” – but in a seriously fucking hot way.

“Push back onto me, there’s a good boy.”

And that delicious half-pain-half-pleasure sound he makes as he wriggles backwards onto it.

Don’t get me started on pegging when the guy is on top. OK, do, because it’s awesome, and it’s rarely discussed. As if some omnipotent sex deity has decreed that all buttsex must happen in the doggy-style position – pah. The best way to guarantee the push-back feeling is to lie on your back, silicon cock pointing straight up in the air. You get to do that hot preparation thing where you stare directly at your naked partner, purring “come and sit on it” as they watch you slather lube all over your strap on cock.

And you see their face, screwed up and focused, as they slide all the way down you to the base – your hips arching gently to meet them, their thighs tensing with the effort of holding back – straining to control the pace with which you fuck them.

Then when they’re good and lubed, spread and used to a thick, hard cock, you can flip them over, push their face into the pillow, and get them to push back harder than they would have at the start.

When I get to push back

It works for me the other way too – with a calm, dominant guy lying tight up against me, the tip of his cock pressing against my ass. If he wraps his arms around my chest, bites the back of my neck and whispers “push back.” That moment when I wriggle down onto him, sliding slowly back down onto his dick, controlling exactly the speed with which he enters me.

One night, a long time ago, the guy I love lay naked on top of me, teasing me with his dick. Pressing it firmly against the entrance of my cunt, and holding me still so I couldn’t push back further. He was there but not there, and the aching pulse of need made me hot and angry. As I whimpered ‘please’ and ‘please please please’ he gave a kind of guttural chuckle – not quite a ‘no’ but not a yes either. He dipped the tip of his cock in my cunt to make it wet, and I tried to struggle out of his grip so I could push back and feel it harder inside me.

With a ‘nuh-uh’ he pulled away, sat up, and rested it against my ass instead. As if to tell me that if I wanted it hard enough I’d work for it. His hands on my hips, his legs astride me, and his dick exerting a gentle pressure, at just the right point.

If you want it enough… you’ll push back.

So I did.

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19 Comments

  • Funloving Girl says:

    Aaaaahhhhh, yes, totally hot! I also love getting him to lie helplessly on his back, legs spread wide, possibly tied, as I push the strap-on slowly into him. Capturing that look of pain, arousal, submission that doggy style doesn’t allow. Unghhh.

    • erik says:

      ive wanted to find a woman to peg me forever its reassuring and so hot to hear the pleasure you get from it

  • Mmmmm. Just. Wonderful.

  • Nick says:

    Oh God yes! So hot! Going from nervous curiosity to knowing just how good it feels to give up the backdoor, pushing back, that feeling of being used, dominated.
    Shows true trust.
    And that we’re all dirty bastards together.

    • Girl on the net says:

      “We’re all dirty bastards together.” – WAY better political tag line than “we’re all in this together” =)

  • Bo says:

    This sounds glorious.

    The writing, hot as ever.

    I hope to one day find someone who would like to do this with me!

  • Chris says:

    The only anal play I get is from my doctor’s rubber-gloved, un-lubed fingers during my annual prostate exam. I think he’d be shocked if I pushed back, but it also just might make his day…or mine.

  • Adam says:

    Amazing :)

  • Kinky Lad says:

    Love it! Do solo butt plug/object play regularly but would love to get pegged now I know what it is. Into the breach!

  • Jo says:

    Just started dating a guy who said the magic words to me: “Pegging, huh? I’d be interested in that.” This blog entry makes me desperately want to call him and say, “How about RIGHT NOW?”

  • So HOT!! I want him on top taking my strap-on right now!

  • Where we’re going, we don’t need names … says:

    Pegging’s outside of my experience, and even regular anal sex hasn’t really ever been my thing … but something about that moment of someone pushing back against my cock … the unspoken ‘yes’. The permission. It’s hot. Very hot.

    I feel I can share this because it was always anonymous and remains so … This old blog post was written about me. Well, okay, not about me per se, it’s about permission and consent and the fact that being able to read each other wordlessly is super-sexy … but I was the boy in question. And I don’t think the girl who wrote it knows that was my first time enjoying anal (excuse the formality if you’re reading, Blondie …) but she does know that I still smile about the memory.

  • Rich says:

    I love anal play, vibraters, dildos, butt plugs, & asked girlfriend to peg me, but she said no way! So do next best thing, bought a butt plug harness, and I wear it when we go out, usually with a 8” dildo buried deep inside me. And she is cool with that, even asking me do you have something in your ass. MASSACHUSETTS, ;-)

  • Jsin says:

    I’m interested in this too.. Louisville? (:

  • Dan says:

    Having been pegged before, I can relate to this post. I remember hearing the excitement in her voice when I pushed back, and from a selfish perspective, the myriad of feelings I felt from pushing back: satisfaction, submission and depth to name a few.
    I hadn’t thought as much about being on top before though…I do now however!

  • Glenn says:

    Hi there I am writing this because I am getting very frustrated with my wife, we have had many conver. About pegging and anal play she knows I like it and I think it helps with my enlarged prostate. Everytime i mention it to her randomly to do it while we r intimate or do it later when we r intimate she says yeah or agrees in her way, but then it never happens. We will do anal play or pegg and then absolutly nothing even if I bring it up or even bring out certain things. I very confused please help. FNconfused

    • Girl on the net says:

      Hi Glenn, thanks for dropping by. The thing which shines most clearly out of your comment, for me, is the fact that you are thinking about this solely in terms of you and what you want, and there doesn’t seem to be much consideration there for what your wife might or might not want. You say you have had lots of conversations about this, and she agrees but then doesn’t actually want to do pegging/anal play when the time comes – perhaps it is just not something that she enjoys. Alternatively, it might be something that she could enjoy but she’s feeling so pressured by the ways in which you’re bringing it up (you mention you’re getting very ‘frustrated’ – if that’s clear to her then it may well make her even less keen to do the things you want) that she struggles to get aroused by it. Remember: sex isn’t just about one person doing something ‘for’ the other, it’s about people having fun together in ways that bring pleasure for both of them.

      There’s a blog post I wrote here a while ago about this, which goes into more detail: https://www.girlonthenet.com/2015/10/11/how-do-i-get-my-partner-to-like-marmite/

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