Today’s incredible guest blog is a long read, so make sure you’re sitting comfortably – with a sex toy of your choice if you’re in the mood – and let yourself fall into this intense and adrenaline-pumping fantasy. We’ve talked here before about risky sex and the way that fear can heighten a sexual mood, but I reckon the author of this piece – J K Mill (@jkmill on BlueSky)- has raised the stakes to heights that no one’s written about on the blog before (I mean this in a very literal way). So settle in for a piece of erotic fiction about climbing, and fucking, which ends on the most searingly memorable mental image I’ve been given in a very long time…

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Autumn is here, and with it the promise of Halloween. So I’m excited to bring you this week’s guest blog on the hotness of fear. Katie runs her own sex blog at NymphoStimToy (@NymphoStimToy on Mastodon), which you definitely need to check out because not only did her first post (‘when I’m better‘) absolutely annihilate me, she also has the best sex blog tagline I have ever seen, and I’m jealous. But as I say, today she’s here to talk about fear: the fact that arousal and terror sit so closely in our bodies, providing similar heart-pounding, gasping, adrenaline-fuelled reactions means they’re incredibly closely linked for many of us. And she wanted to talk about giving an eager submissive the gift of pure terror…

Note: Katie has written consent and the build-up to fear very beautifully in this piece, but it’s important to state clearly that you shouldn’t ever seek to frighten someone unless you know they have consented to that, and you’ve discussed things like safe words and other ways for them to withdraw consent at any time. As a general rule, the scarier the play, the more groundwork you need to have put in beforehand to understand your partner’s limits and the cues they will give you if they need the terror to stop. 

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