Welcome, friends, to my grubby little corner of the internet. A corner so strewn with obscenity that the UK government has decided you must prove you’re a grown-up before you can access certain parts of it. The UK’s new Online Safety Act has come into force, so UK people might have noticed a bunch of websites suddenly demanding you take a selfie, share your credit card details, or jump through another hoop to prove that you’re over 18. Quite a few of my friends have been discussing this in the pub, because for understandable reasons people who aren’t embedded in the world of online pornography or internet law are suddenly curious about why the internet is now so very broken. They’re also often convinced that the government will change its mind and therefore no one really needs to worry. I’ve had this conversation so many times now that I reckon I’ve got the basis for a fairly solid layperson’s guide to age verification: what it is, how it affects you, and why we absolutely, genuinely do need to worry.

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Cast your mind back to the last time something gave you a kick of surprising new lust. You know what I mean, right? The little moments during sex when someone said something with a particular intonation and it caused you to melt from the inside. The written erotica that made just a few tweaks to the kind of phrases you think about when you masturbate, and suddenly opened the door to a whole new avenue of fantasy. Maybe you were scrolling through your favourite porn site, and you discovered a fresh way to position two subs for a beating that gave you… well… feelings. Cast your mind back to how you felt when you were last turned on by something that surprised you. Now hold that thought, and treasure it: it may be much rarer in the future.

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Sorry to be blunt, but I don’t need advice on my feelings. I don’t want to be rude or cruel here – I fully understand the desire to give advice, if you think you can be helpful. And I recognise that your desire to help comes from a lovely place. Occasionally I will make very specific requests for advice or input, but the vast majority of the time, I do not write my sex blog in order to gather advice from strangers.

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I’m so excited to bring you a contribution from a really special guest today. He normally draws the gorgeous art that illustrates the posts here on site, but today he’s here to share a truly stunning image for the last ever Sinful Sunday. Please give a huge welcome to fantastic illustrator (and incredibly talented photographer) Stuart Taylor!

Read his thoughts below, and follow him here on BlueSky and here on Mastodon.

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Today marks the final Sinful Sunday – an incredible, body-positive photography project run by my talented colleague (and much-loved friend) Molly Moore. I have never had much courage for taking photos of myself, but I have joined in a few times before – mostly because of Molly’s infectious enthusiasm and the supportive and welcoming environment she helped to create. Even though I only joined in occasionally, I have always loved seeing other people’s contributions. The joy, the love, the sexiness. Sinful Sunday will be very much missed, huge thanks to all of you – especially the regular contributors – for sharing your incredible photos, your gorgeous bodies, and these beautiful snippets of intimacy with the world. What you do is incredible.

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