Guest blog: Hunt me down – anticipating a BDSM scene…

Image by the brilliant Stuart F Taylor

Thanks to @BibulousOne, I have an extra guest blog for you this week, which explores some of the shivery hotness of anticipating a BDSM scene. He’s written beautifully before about the delights of the cane, and I love how evocatively he captures what’s going on inside his head as the pre-scene anticipation builds.

Update: he now has his own sex blog, so click the link to check out more of his writing.

Hunt me down (please)

Getting in touch with your “Fight or Flight” response

The way the body responds to threats is controlled by ancient systems that developed when our ancestors had to be super-vigilant to avoid becoming lunch for early predators. Complex chemical and nervous pathways evolved that enhanced the ability to react to danger. Collectively these are known as the Fight or Flight response and I am acutely conscious of mine every time I arrange a submissive BDSM session with a Mistress.

3 DAYS OUT

When prey animals perceive a predator in the distance, limbic circuitry in their brains initiates a range of defensive reactions, including motor inhibition, focused attention to the threat, and decelerating heart rate.*

I look at the email. It confirms my appointment with the Mistress. This is not just any Mistress. She has a reputation for uncompromising, challenging sessions that find your limits and test them. I now know that in three days’ time I am going to be the victim of a strong powerful creature who will immobilize me and inflict considerable pain. Almost immediately I feel a frisson of fear and anticipation. For the next 3 days my senses feel heightened; I feel more aware of my surroundings; I see things more sharply; I have trouble concentrating as my mind jumps about, constantly returning to the upcoming trial. It might sound unpleasant but I actually enjoy these sensations: this heightened sense of being alive; of being somehow wider awake than normal as ancient responses and rhythms take over my body. This wonderful clarity was felt by the first humans before we confused our simple hunter-gatherer world by adding jobs, cars and PlayStations.

4 HOURS TO GO

If the predator gets closer, these reactions are augmented. Bradycardia, evoked by a fear cue, covary closely with cell firing in the amygdala. Further understanding of this defense circuit demonstrates that fearful animals are hyperreactive to startling stimuli presented during conditioned fear cues.

As the meeting comes closer the sense of heightened awareness becomes more intense and is accompanied by a hollow feeling in my stomach as blood moves out to the muscles. I have a routine for this time: I do a small amount of exercise; have a strong coffee and eat something sugary to help my energy levels; later a long shower. The ritual just adds to the relentlessly mounting tension. I am a skier and this is how I feel standing at the top of a too-steep, too-narrow icy gully with only rocks below. I have the same sense of the body preparing itself; resources being martialed; unneeded systems closing down; of having one hundred percent mental and physical focus on what is to come. Crossing the road to her building a cyclist veers in front of me. In my hyper-aware state I sense the danger almost before it is there and step out of the way.

THE MEETING

As the distance from the predator is further reduced, prey animals increasingly mobilize for action. This “alarm” reaction involves yet higher vigilance, sympathetic activation of glands and smooth muscles, movement of blood to the gross muscles, and cardiac acceleration. Breathing quickens.

Within a few minutes of entering the dungeon space with its benches and restraints, its whips and canes, I am tied to a cross, naked and vulnerable. I can almost taste the adrenaline. I can feel my heart beating rapidly as it drives blood round my body. My breathing is faster and deeper as my system pulls in oxygen. I am frightened. I am excited. I am aroused. I am alive. God, I am so alive. Standing close she whispers: “You are safe here but I am going to hurt you a lot” and draws back her whip. I feel a final surge of adrenaline course through my body as my muscles tense, waiting for the first blow.

*Both Predator and Prey

Emotional Arousal in Threat and Reward

Andreas Löw, Peter J. Lang, J. Carson Smith, and Margaret M. Bradley

Journal of the Association for Psychological Science. September 2008

4 Comments

  • Paul says:

    Wow! I’m new to the scene and have a hard session arranged for Monday. This wonderfully written blog post captures everything, especially that feeling of being ‘so alive’ while waiting for the inevitable pain and punishment. I love this feeling so much so thank you posting this. X

    • BibulousOne says:

      Hey, Paul. Thanks I am glad you like it. I hope Monday goes well. Having written this about PRE-session feelings, I might do something similar about POST-session feelings one day.

  • Twigs of 100acresub says:

    I hope Paul’s session went well too. I love the build up and the anticipation. I like how my mindset subtly alters to match the Dominants will. When they get inside my head and body before that meeting of action, the power is tremendous. And I feed off it, gain from it, so whereas some talk about BDSM as a power exchange oddly I feel myself grow, my power even?, as I give up my agency and will in advance and at the time. It’s a delightful paradox :) thank you for also reminding me how it’s not just a head thing, like the black and white trite photoshopped with inspirational quotes have us at…
    Humbly twiglet

    • BibulousOne says:

      Twiglet – thanks for the great comments. I get everything you say. While I have had sessions that have gone the other way and left me down and depressed I can usually trace that to how I was feeling before the session or something that happened during it. After a good session though I walk a little taller, focus on things, feel like I lost weight!

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