Category Archives: Sex blog advice

Consensual non-consent: the ethics of writing CNC

The fantasies which happen in my head are consensual. The fantasies which happen in my head are often non-consensual. It sounds like a logical fallacy: how can something be both consensual and non-consensual at the same time? The answer is that, of course, the ‘non-consent’ in my fantasies is only an illusion: the participants in my head are not real, the only real person here – the only one who needs to consent – is me. But when those fantasies leak out of my head onto the page or screen, readers – real live people – become a part of what’s happening, and their consent matters as well. Let’s talk about the ethics of writing consensual non-consent fantasies.

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Erotic audio: new sexy stories and new voices!

Ever since I started the audio porn project, I’ve been itching to get some more sexy stories up on the site. There are so many fantastic erotic writers in the world, with incredible tales to tell – both fiction and non-fiction – that it is starting to seem odd that the audio porn section of my site features mostly my own work. Let’s fix that. Starting this week, you’ll see lots of new erotic audio being uploaded to that section, from writers whose work I really admire and think translates beautifully into audio erotica.

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SQIFF (Scottish Queer International Film Festival)

Apologies for the diary-style update, team: I’m quite poorly at the moment and my ability to blog and edit properly has fallen by the wayside along with my ability to breathe through my nose and, occasionally, stand up. My body is conspiring to try and spoil my time at SQIFF, but I am glad to say it has not yet succeeded. Here is a taste of some of the awesome things I’ve been up to here in Glasgow at the Scottish Queer International Film Festival.

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I promise I’m OK (OR: why sadness is still good content)

Recently I’ve been writing about being sad. And while it may make me seem a little mercenary, I have to tell you that sadness makes good content. More than that: sometimes it’s the only content I can produce. Yet when I write about being sad, people often message me to ask “are you OK? Do you want to talk about it? Is there anything I can do?” to which the answers are, respectively, yes, no and yes. For those who might be interested in the minutiae of what it’s like writing a sex blog, here’s a longer answer…

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Personal sex stories: writing, narcissism and the value of ‘I’

Join me on a journey of self-discovery, which begins with a spiteful commenter calling me a narcissist and ends with me explaining why personal sex stories are awesome and this commenter can suck on my hugely-inflated ego.

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