Today I am frantic with work, and about to collapse in a pile on the floor. Please forgive me if I’m slow to get back to you or if your kind offer of a pint or a chat is met with just an incoherent scream of terror.
BUT I refuse to collapse properly before I’ve done a Monday blog. So here goes – a brilliant thing, and something that’s annoyed me…
The good: Bish is back
I’m not going to pretend I have any objectivity here whatsoever: I think Justin Hancock (AKA Bish) is amazing. He’s a sex educator and all-round awesome person, who’s taught me loads about sex and relationships. His sex ed is aimed at young people, but I’ve learned loads from it even though I’m well over the age where I’d get IDd to buy cider.
He’s just revamped his site, so I thought it’d be a good opportunity to point you at some of my favourite things on there – please click through, have a read, and show him some love on Twitter if you can too.
- There’s more than one type of love
- A devastatingly sensible take on what counts as ‘too much’ porn
- How good consent feels (AKA the handshake analogy)
The bad: doing shit things to shitheads
Back story: tedious misogynist bellend Roosh V was planning a whole bunch of meetings around the world. He wanted his followers (other knobheads who also hated women, basically) to meet in car parks and industrial estates in some shitty locations around the world to discuss how unfair it was that they didn’t have girlfriends.
Most people who heard about this welcomed it with the same muffled laughter with which you’d greet a wet fart at a dinner party. Some people got angry, and signed petitions to stop them.
Others decided that it would be good to find out who Roosh and his gang of acolytes were, where they lived, and publish their details publicly.
There are a million and one good reasons why this is an awful thing to do, and the point is that they’re good reasons regardless of whether you hate the person being doxxed.
Lindy West has written a brilliant piece in the Guardian about how it feels:
“I know that feeling largely because of Roosh. I’m an anti-harassment advocate largely because of Roosh. And he’s right. His family doesn’t deserve it. Unlike Roosh, I actually oppose doxxing and death threats, even against people I dislike. So it’s difficult for me to enjoy watching anyone, even someone who’s tormented me with a pathological intensity for years, go through a hell I’ve devoted so much of my professional life to fighting.”
So yeah. Doing a shitty thing is still shit, regardless of whether you’re doing it to someone who is in turn a total shitbag. At the moment, everyone knows that Roosh V is a prick. I don’t want anyone to have a reason to leap to his defence.