Guest blog: The suit fetish… *swoon*

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I met this week’s guest blogger – F. Leonora Solomon – at Eroticon this year, and she’s amazing. Leonora’s an editor and writer who lives in New York City, and she’s published and featured in several anthologies – please do check them out via the links in the piece and on her website. I got the chance to chat with her in between the Eroticon sessions, and when she suggested a guest post about this particular topic I practically squealed with glee. It’s one of those kinks that also makes me go a bit giddy and trembly. Today she’s going to tell you about her suit fetish… 

The suit fetish…

I was on the train listening to a friend talk about her fetish, which fell into my your kink is not my kink category. But I was genuinely interested in listening to her talk about it. I liked her passion, particularly the reverent way she described how she felt about certain aspects of it…and it was there that I made the connection.

On the train as a teenager, I always got excited at the Lower Manhattan stops because I liked seeing men get on in suits. When I graduated college and started working, I developed a crush on a man primarily because of how well he wore a suit. He knew how to wear a suit like his own skin,  even when he went into his office, took off his jacket and flipped his tie over his shoulder. From him, I learned what a man’s tie says about him in relationship to his attire. Details are very important to me: (bow)ties, suspenders, vests, cufflinks, handkerchiefs…these all enhance my experience.

Needless to say there was a great deal of suit action while Mad Men was on the air, along with retro and vintage fashion which I am also obsessed with! But seeing Don Draper in a suit with his stern face, and oh…the hat! Sunday. Night. Made. Honestly, when he was not in some variation of suit—jacket on or not—my interest was not as piqued.

Suits are a reoccurring theme in my writing. When the Kink of the Week meme featured suits, I got excited just from thinking about what I was going to write about! Embracing my excitement about suits has helped me to learn about myself in a way I had not before. My suit kink is not my friend’s kink, but she smiled with recognition as I started describing passionately how I felt about seeing men in suits. A man in a really great suit is as intoxicating to me as a man reading a book… the two combined is lethal…

Since I wrote the Kink of the Week post, I have considered other opinions about suits. And what about suits on women? I can tell you that I thought K.D. Lang looked very attractive on the cover of her album, Drag. I also distinctly remember Linda Evangelista in a suit, a photograph of which I posted on my Facebook profile and it got the same amount of likes and comments as its male counterparts.

If I suit up a character it means that I want that character to project all the things I connect with donning a suit. I am happy when that aspect of me bleeds into my fiction. It is kind of like Edith Templeton who wrote about life experiences of hers that colored her fiction. I do not write stories that closely mirror my own life like Templeton, but I feel safe when my ideas and themes are prevalent in a piece that I write. I love suits, and I love them omnipresent representing a bit of me in my work when I want them there.

My Pinterest, Tumblr and Instagram definitely reflect my suit fetish, and a lot of other fetishes for that matter! This story that I recently wrote for Lelo, was inspired by a particular suit. I had an entirely different idea at first, but seeing this suit modeled before my eyes wrote another story for me.

Someone I just met, asked me if I ever wore a suit? I got actual chills, because I never have and the thought never occurred to me. The idea is exciting to me. I do love white dress shirts on myself, and I would definitely not be opposed to slipping a (bow)tie about my neck…

F. Leonora Solomon is an editor and writer, who lives in New York City. As an editor, she has published several anthologies, most recently TIE ME UP. As a writer, her short stories have been featured in anthologies, including CHEMICAL [se]X and SPY GAMES. She is a bibliophile, and has severe wanderlust… Visit her site at fdotleonora.wordpress.com, where you can find all of her social media outlets and books.

10 Comments

  • This post was interesting to me in a your kink is not my kink sort of way. In fact reading it really reinforced this for me, made me think about it as I never have before, it is definitely not how I like to imagine my men or women, though KD Land is a whole other subject. :)
    Book covers – I avoid those that have man in suits on them! Although I have enjoyed reading some office erotica and romance involving smart men.
    Lucky for you girls, there are lots of men in suits around to enjoy.

    BTW, I was also at Eroticon and it was great to meet both of you.

  • first GOTN, thank you for having me and i love the layout…*swooning* over the Don Draper picture, and the suit fetish in BOLD!
    Helen, it was awesome to meet you as well, and to be honest? i do not always like men in suits on book covers either, i am very particular…but office erotica is HOT!

  • Dawn says:

    I like a guy in a suit, but I’m just as happy with one in jeans. I’d love to see you in a suit Leonora :)

  • Cris Anson says:

    I never thought of it as a fetish, but boy did this post hit home! I love a man in a crisp white long-sleeved shirt. Which of course must be paired with a tailored pair of pants from a suit, the jacket of which he’s just removed. Yesssss!

  • SpaceCaptainSmith says:

    I can’t say I share this fetish as such (it would make my work pretty awkward if I did); but I do like to look good in a suit myself, and always appreciate seeing other guys in well-fitting suits, like Mr Hamm above.

    As for women in suits, they can look very nice indeed. From that last paragraph, it sounds like you’ve got much to look forward to. :)

  • I used to love wearing my tailored suits when I ran my translation agency and it was the one thing which stopped cat-calling in the street. Think I intimidated the men dressed for business.

    Men in suits – only good because it takes longer to get a man out of a suit than jeans and a t-shirt. Adds to the anticipation! LOL.

    • Girl on the net says:

      Ooh, very good point about anticipation! Also I feel there’s something in the sound of a tie being undone and swished out of a collar… mmm…

  • Azkyroth says:

    F. Leonora Solomon is an editor and writer, who lives in New York City

    That explains it.

  • I can feel a photo of you in a suit coming on ;) Great post, lovely xx

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