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Guest blog: does sex make music sound better?

As I discovered when writing the intro to this blog, quite a few people google the question ‘does music make sex better?’ I quite like the idea that there are one or two particularly excellent songs which, when played during a hot shag, will instantly make the guy I’m with jizz gold coins or fireworks or something. But what about the other way round?

This week’s guest blogger is Joel, who runs a music blog over at The Album Wall. He wants to flip that question: is any given piece of music guaranteed to sound better if you’ve fucked to it?

Does sex make music sound better?

I recently purchased My Love is Cool, the hotly-anticipated debut album from North London four-piece Wolf Alice. It’s a pretty great listen; the band have a dangerous, ‘don’t fuck with us’ cool that’s kind of irresistible in a rock band, and they cover a thrillingly wide variety of sounds over the course of just twelve tracks.

It’s also the perfect soundtrack for giving head. Most of the music I listen to is consumed in the car or at my desk in work, but over the last few weeks, My Love is Cool has been almost exclusively reserved for those moments when I’m face-first in my girlfriend’s pussy. Wolf Alice’s music is just the right pace for a hot, hard tonguing, and while each song sounds completely different to the one before it, somehow they all sound completely perfect when my face is covered in her juices. From the sensual cool of the opening track to the shrieking, unhinged ecstasy of songs like You’re a Germ and Fluffy, every last note is an excellent match for what my mouth is doing.

Yes, reader, I’m firmly of the belief that sex is all the sexier when you’re fucking (or, indeed, tonguefucking) to music. You can’t just throw anything on, of course – there are rules –  but for me, there’s no sexual activity that can’t be improved with a good melody and a pounding drum line. If nothing else, the presence of an underpinning tempo really helps to intensify the waves of pleasure that accompany a good fuck.

Of course, it’s hardly controversial to suggest that sex is better with music – I’m sure we’ve all had the odd better-than-average orgasm courtesy of Barry White and his taint-tinglingly deep voice. However, I have an additional theory: I would propose that music is actually improved if you’re having sex while you listen to it. Just as sex is better with music, I think that music is better with sex; that you’re more likely to enjoy a song if you hear it while you’re getting down and dirty.

This isn’t something that’s only occurred to me recently. In my previous relationship, it was practically a running gag – if we had sex to music, I would always, always profess to “fuckin’ love this song!” after I had come. It didn’t matter what the song was; pretty much everything sounded amazing to me post-screw. I know very little about the science of sex (or about science in general, really), but it seems reasonably safe to assume that an orgasm, with its accompanying rush of endorphins, affects the brain’s sensory perception in such a way that music genuinely does sound better to eardrums that have recently been shaken by the throes of passion.

Still, I doubt that’s the only way in which shagging improves the sound of music (as opposed to The Sound of Music, although God knows I’d be a lot more eager to watch that film if they’d added a bit a bit of shagging). If you’ve ever been to a gig, chances are you saw people moving along to the music that was being performed: nodding their heads, jumping up and down, and – if you’re not watching the miserable sort of whiteboy indie I always end up seeing – perhaps even dancing.

All of the above are means of physically interacting with sound, and they feel good because they make you an active participant in the music instead of the passive spectator that you would otherwise be. Sex is another way to physically engage with music, and it’s probably the most enjoyable of all: sexual intercourse is when you’re at your most primal, and so those sweaty sessions between the sheets are when you’re most closely in touch with your senses, as well as with how your body is reacting to the information you’re receiving from your ears.

(And you get the enjoyment of having sex, which is obviously a plus.)

Let’s come back to that Wolf Alice album, because it’s a great example of what I’m talking about here. When I’m eating my girlfriend’s cunt, Alice aren’t just providing a suitable sonic backdrop – they’re playing an active part in the head that I’m giving. The drummer is setting the pace at which I move, and the band in front of him are dictating my intensity, conducting the whole dirty symphony. In the quiet parts, I lick gently, but when things get loud, I grab her legs and push her backwards and drive my tongue into her clit like my life depends on it. When the musicians pause, I pause too; when the rhythm changes, I change what I’m doing to match it, to maintain that hot, heart-thumping connection between mouth and music.

There’s one other, final way in which sex makes music better: association. Because now, if I do listen toMy Love is Cool at my desk or in the car, the songs take me right back to my girlfriend’s bedroom – all I have to do is press ‘Play’ and my face is in between her thighs once more, lapping at her wetness.

I doubt Wolf Alice ever imagined that their album would end up serving as some guy’s personal cunnilingus playlist, and if Ellie, Joff, Theo or Joel are reading this, I’d like to offer my apologies for appropriating their hard work in this manner. Frankly, though, it’s working in their advantage – I find it hard to believe that I would be enjoying My Love is Cool quite this much if I didn’t associate it so closely with the taste of my girlfriend’s pussy.

If you liked this (and why on Earth wouldn’t you?) then please do leave a comment below, and follow Joel on Twitter @TheAlbumWall.


  • Despite getting up to turn off the stereo midway through the act out of annoyance, one of my exs still to this day has ‘Ride of the Valkyries’ as her ringtone for me calling.
    On the flipside, one girl I as seeing briefly absolutely insisted there be no music playing at all, at any volume, which was a – awkward in general and b – double awkward as I still stayed at home then and the walls weren’t exactly thick.

    Without question my most fucked to album is Massive Attack’s ‘Mezzanine’ though, it’s just perfect background music and when listened to now it summons to mind 4 or 5 particularly memorable encounters in my life.

  • Bolero. If your man can wait until the end to come then you’ll come too. At least I’ve never failed and we use when the mood is right.

  • Reina Skalbeck says:

    Good one for having a shag to? Walk This Way by Aerosmith/Run DMC. Hands down every single time. I usually have the likes of Only By The Night by Kings of Leon on and another that works is Wednesday Morning 3am by Simon and Garfunkel. It is not about just the act though the songs make memorable. The feeling afterwards as well.

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