There are plenty of advice articles on how to fuck. They’ll give instructions on what to do, where to touch, and – if you’re lucky – how to find out exactly what will make your partner scream ‘HOLY FUCK YES’ in the middle of an orgasmic spasm.
But I’m a connoisseur of a role that’s often painted as ‘passive’: I like to fuck, but more than that I like to get fucked. And there are many different, active ways to get fucked: it’s not just a case of lying there like a cat that’s got some particularly salty cream. Let me take you through a few filthy examples…
Get fucked romantically
Slow moans, lots of lip-biting. Squeezing tight around whoever’s fucking you, and lingering over every single touch. Like you’re in an old-school chocolate advert and you need to savour every mouthful.
This is the kind of fuck the lead characters in a rom com have when they finally get together, but much much hotter because it’s real, and that pounding ache in your cunt is entirely unscripted.
Get fucked coquettishly
Where you’re playing innocent, like ‘do what you want’, with a coy smile and a hope they’ll choose to do something that makes them feel a bit filthy. Soft whispers and questions that nudge but never demand: ‘do you want to fuck me in the ass?’
Bat your eyelashes as you say it. Allow a twitch of nervousness to show on your face, like you’ve never done it before. As if you aren’t gagging for them to take you up on the offer.
Get fucked enthusiastically
This one’s all about the wide-eyed joy. The slightly-louder-than-usual noises of appreciation. It’s a panted ‘holy fuck yes yes there!’ Fingers digging into his back, or gripping his arse and pulling him in so it happens at just the right angle. It’s me being able to brace my legs against the bed and fuck back against him – nudging him towards the rhythm that I need.
Get fucked like he’s serving you
Him: pounding hard at my cunt, with beads of sweat gathering on his forehead. Me: rubbing vigorously at my clit, eyes closed, lips pursed in an expression of determination. This fuck says ‘I need to come and the best way to do it is when your dick’s just hard enough and in just the right place.’ He’s not there to bestow orgasms on me – he’s there because a specific part of his anatomy will ever-so-slightly enhance my delight.
It feels nicer to come when there’s a dick for me to clamp down on.
Get fucked like you cannot handle it
This one combines ‘your dick is so big’ with ‘I’m a dirty girl’ – this way to get fucked involves slight expressions of pain. Usually in a deep position, when he slams right against the back of my cervix and I know I’ll be sore tomorrow, but I cannot bring myself to want him to stop, because oh God of course I don’t want him to stop.
Ow. Fuck. Ouch. Keep going. Please don’t stop. Pleasepleaseplease.
My favourite way to get fucked: uncontrollable self-pleasure to the point of actual pain. Like I’m gorging on pudding and my stomach aches but I can’t bring myself to put down the spoon.
Get fucked like you’re not supposed to
As if it’s bad or naughty or banned. Examples: when your friends are in the next room and you whisper ‘ssssh’, or hold your own hands over your mouth to stop yourself crying out. When you’re in a pub toilet and you have to brace against the door because the lock’s broken. When you look into each other’s eyes and see not just pleasure there but complicity in a shared secret.
Get fucked like you’re a toy
Half your body pushed under the coffee table, so just your backside sticks out in the air. You’re face-down in the carpet and they’re holding your hips to brace themselves, telling you to stay perfectly still when you had no intention of moving.
Get fucked playfully
As a challenge to see who can come the quickest, or who can hold on longest before they melt into post-orgasmic indifference.
Get fucked like you’re there to soothe
When you wake in the middle of the night to hear him rubbing frantically at his dick, desperate for the orgasmic release that might just get him to sleep at 4 am. And you murmur ‘come here. Fuck me. There.’
When he moans slightly in the back of his throat at how good your wet cunt feels around his dick and you murmur: ‘that’s it. That’s good’ as he shudders and comes inside you.
Get fucked like it’s a gift
And say ‘thank you’ afterwards, as your trembling hands fumble for the wet knickers you left on the floor.
Get fucked angrily
Like the only way to burn off a fight is to fuck like you still need to win.
Roll over and get fucked like you can’t bear to look at them.
Roll over and get fucked like you need them in you now.
Get fucked like it’s the first or last time ever. Get fucked playfully, happily, angrily or like you’re lazy and you don’t want to move.
There are many, many ways to get fucked.
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Naturally there are plenty of additions to this – getting fucked with toys, on top of buildings, in malfunctioning lifts, etc. But I mainly wanted to highlight the styles – that ‘getting fucked’ is about more than just spreading ’em and lying there. It’s about atmosphere, reaction and attitude. Above are all my favourites, but if I’ve missed any of your favourite ways to get fucked, please do add them in the comments.