Tag Archives: advice
Guest blog: I am vanilla. My boyfriend’s ex is not
Today’s guest blog speaks to me deeply. As a filthy, experienced sex blogger I have dated quite a few people who have worried they’re too ‘vanilla‘ for my tastes. As if once you start trying kink, there’s no going back, and no sex will be good enough unless at least one of you ends up suspended from the ceiling covered in Nuttella. This week’s anonymous contributor gives a funny, sweet account of how she took the news that her boyfriend’s ex-girlfriend had more sexual experience than she did. Is ‘vanilla’ an acceptable flavour? I’ll let her give you the answer…
Guest blog: AI has made online sex work a lot more dangerous
There are so many ways AI is affecting our lives it can sometimes be difficult to keep up. I’ve written before about how depressing it is that people want to use robots to write porn, but there are even more sinister uses of AI tools out there. I’m very grateful to today’s guest blogger, Kate O’Kelly, for this deeply troubling piece about AI image recognition tools, and the danger they pose to people doing online sex work.
Guest blog: After 24 years together, I realised we’d been rushing intimacy
Regular readers will know that I am a sucker for stories about long-term relationships where sex is a shared joy. I wrote about this a few years ago, and the longing I have for someone I can be with long term, who embarks on sex as a playful adventure. While I tear myself to pieces in the hunt for that, it’s wonderful to hear stories from people who have found their own ways to navigate intimacy in long-term relationships, especially if they’re willing to share the ups and downs of their journey. So I’m delighted to welcome Sean Owen, who writes about intimacy, curiosity and the evolution of long term love and has been with his wife Sophie for 24 years, to do exactly that.
5 different types of blow job
Unlike with suck jobs, I’m going to launch into this piece without any preamble whatsoever: here are five different ways to suck a dick. There are many more ways to suck a dick than this, but these are the first 5 types of blow job that popped into my head. Feel free to expand in the comments, I am always keen to share knowledge with other expert cocksuckers.
Guest blog: What’s it like to run an ethical sex toy shop?
Today’s guest blog is something a little different, because I really want to introduce you to the fabulous person behind The Pleasure Garden – an awesome ethical sex toy shop that sponsors my website. If you’d like to buy stuff you can use the code GOTN10 for 10% off anything they stock, but I’m not trying to actively sell you anything here, I just wanted to introduce you to someone cool: Francesca Cross, who runs it. I have written about a number of fantastic Pleasure Garden products over the years, from restraints kits to g-spot vibes, and door cuffs to doppelganger dicks. And whenever I have a catch-up with Francesca to talk about what I could review next, we always end up in a fascinating sidebar about the challenges involved in trying to carve an ethical path through the adult industry: how to improve accessibility, how to make sure the toys in stock are body safe, how to write copy for websites in a way that is inclusive and never shaming. I thought you lot might like to see a glimpse behind the scenes, and meet someone awesome who is working to do exactly that. So I interviewed Francesca! Grab a cup of tea and learn about running an ethical sex toy shop in the UK…