Girl on the Net

The first rule of gang bang club is that you have to talk about gang bang club: these things don’t organise themselves.

Here’s the concept: a group of five friends each contribute a man to the gang bang pool. You don’t need to split by gender, obviously, but I’m doing it here because I’m mostly straight and gendering it also makes it easier for me to differentiate the groups when I’m writing about them. You can differentiate between tops/bottoms though, or however else you’d like. In whatever gang bang club you decide to found, you and your co-conspirators make the rules.

In mine, there’s a group of my horniest women friends and a separate group made up of whichever men they choose to contribute. They might offer their husband, their boyfriend, their fuckbuddy, whatever. To join gang bang club all you need is an eagerly consenting man to add to the pool, and a ravenous desire to be gang fucked by everyone else’s.

The women then set up a rota wherein each week one of them gets gang-banged by The Pool. Saturday night is gang bang night, and the men pile into a car and head to the agreed location with lube, condoms, toys, rope, drinks, snacks, Viagra, or whatever else they want to bring along with them. Each week their task is to ruin a different woman.

The guys have a WhatsApp group where they can discuss the upcoming activities – making plans based on information supplied by whichever guy knows this woman best. The women have a similar group, so they can also share notes and iterate on ideas or just tell sexy stories about their own gang bang once it’s happened.

Let’s say week one is Dawn’s turn. The friends drew lots to see who got the first turn, for reasons I’ll explain later, and Dawn came up. She books a hotel room and sends the info to the guys, who mark it in their calendars and start getting excited.

Dawn’s partner, Felix, tells the group chat that she’s really into the idea of getting spitroasted. Asks them: do you fancy taking turns in her mouth while I fuck her cunt? They discuss this idea back and forth, and Felix gives them info about Dawn’s likes and dislikes, and takes a lead on trying to learn what the other guys like and dislike too. Although there is no ‘director’ of the gang bang, it’s broadly agreed that the person who knows this woman best will be responsible for sharing information that will maximise her pleasure and comfort on the night.

There are overarching rules about limits too, of course – the group has already decided who is willing to go bareback, and swapped STI test results if necessary. They also have agreed universal safewords – ‘red means stop’ or what have you.

This is all very safe. I need you to know that. In fact, if I hadn’t been thinking about safety, the idea for ‘gang bang club’ would never have occurred to me in the first place.

Why create gang bang club?

The concept of gang bang club came after a discussion with a friend, where we were talking about how much we’d both love to experience a gang bang at some point. It might surprise some straight guys to know this, but women I’m friends with (not all, but quite a few – I tend to befriend people who are like me, after all) talk about this stuff a lot.

Wouldn’t it be awesome to have a gang bang?

Oh my god yes, I’d love to know what it’s like to be fucked by five guys at once.

I want to be bent over and strapped down in the corner of a room while men play poker for the chance to fuck me in the ass. 

You get the idea.

However, these conversations often highlight challenges that would arise if we ever tried to act on them. By digging a little deeper into our desires we realise that those desires come hand-in-hand with conditions:

• The men need to not be creepy, pushy or otherwise frightening
• They need to be people we like
• They need to all get along with each other – not necessarily fancy each other, just be willing to work together to collaborate in our ruination
• They need to be safe

Recently someone left a comment on a blog post, letting me know that the way I’d written it didn’t work for them. It was a horny story about a secretary being offered up by her boss to visiting clients, so they could take it in turns to use and degrade her sexually. Within the piece I include a lot of context about why I find this hot, explore the darker kinks that run through it and explain why this scenario can be intensely arousing in my head but not in reality. They told me:

“I appreciate your insights but Honestly, I think the warnings and discussion through the story is highly distracting. Let’s talk after! It ruins the fantasy saying “these people aren’t real” and taking about your own cumming.”

Firstly: you’re not my editor. If you don’t like a particular piece, find something you do enjoy instead. There’s no shortage of porn on the internet. Secondly, there are certain fantasies that I only feel comfortable sharing if I can also unpack them as I go. If I can’t contextualise the darker pieces, I don’t feel safe sending them out into the world, so without the ‘distracting’ context that story would never have been published in the first place.

Finally, listen carefully: this is who I am. I am not just a horny pervert, I’m also prone to introspection. Taking little side quests (like this section here) to dig beneath the surface of a particular idea. These tangents are not meaningless, they sit at the core of what makes me who I am and what keeps my writing coming. Exploring some of the context behind the things I wank about helps to inspire brand new fantasies, so that ‘distracting’ introspection might be the first step in creating the next thing I’ll write.

The idea for gang bang club would never have come about if it weren’t for me and a friend asking ourselves (and each other) what it might take to overcome worries about safety, and bring our gang bang dreams a step closer to reality.

The easiest way to achieve the goals set out above is to select from a pool of men who are pre-approved by women we trust. All the guys know us, and therefore probably each other, having met in the pub or at festivals or birthday parties or what have you. What’s more, there are serious consequences for each man if he is pushy or steps out of line: he will lose his relationship with whichever woman brought him into the group.

It’s unusual of me to have the kind of fantasies that require this much organisation and planning. And to be honest, I suspect the practicalities themselves now become a hurdle in and of themselves. But – HUGE BUT – the concept of a ‘gang bang club’ which lets women take it in turns each week to get railed by the same five men opens up questions which inspire new horny daydreams that had never occurred to me before. Not least this one:

If I were in gang bang club, would I want to take my turn first, or last?

Gang bang club: who gets first go?

First

Let’s say my name is first out of the hat, and I get to be the ruined queen at the heart of the inaugural gang bang. There’s a definite thrill in getting to be number one. No one ever forgets their first gang bang, after all. The tone of it in my fantasies centres around the men being simultaneously nervous and excited.

I imagine them having awkward yet eager chats in the WhatsApp group. Whichever guy I’ve contributed letting them in on little details: she absolutely loves sucking cock. We should tie her up with her head hanging off the bed and take it in turns to throatfuck her – she adores that. She’ll enjoy it if you talk about her, not to her, so we should make sure to have lots of conversations about what a slut she is. I know she likes getting messy and trashed, so I’m going to tell her to dress up really nicely – anyone got ideas for things we can smear on her? I’ll make sure she’s wearing clothes we’re allowed to tear off. 

Meanwhile I’ll be messaging the women, asking them what their particular men like, what they are like, and whether there are any special things I should offer or ask for that will make a particular dick twitch. I’ll find out which guys might struggle with shyness in mixed company, so I know who to be gentle with and what might help them overcome their nerves. I’ll bring butt plugs if someone says their guy is into anal, maybe even practice before the big night so I know I can take him.

Then in the moment, while we’re fucking, I’ll soak up all the reflected joy of novelty and nerves: being centre of attention as these men take the first steps on this journey. Clocking this one or that as they request or reach for something they’ve not yet tried. Seeing the excitement in their eyes when they realise I’m actually doing this! I’m doing something I’ve only ever seen in porn!

Magical stuff.

This is why we have to draw names rather than just volunteer to be first, second, third or whatever. I think there’s an extra value in being ‘first’ for gang bang club. As there’s also a value in getting gang banged last…

Last

The hotness of being the final person who gets fucked in gang bang club is all about greater understanding. Knowing the guys have shared and experienced each other’s styles and kinks, and having had the chance myself to learn tips from the women as they debrief the chat after their own experiences.

Over the last four weeks, the men will have collaborated in ruining four of my friends, getting bolder and more confident in how they do that as they learn and grow and adapt. Those women will have told me all the details, too, so not only will I have a little ‘cheat sheet’, I’ll be able to anticipate and look forward to certain things: the way this one’s great at dirty talk, or how that guy loves bondage and is great with knots. Those who struggled to fuck in mixed company at the start might by now be more confident – better able to get stuck straight in to my destruction. Those who had specific ‘bucket list’ ideas for what they wanted to do in a gang bang will have had the chance to test those out, so by the time they get to me they’ve perfected and maybe even iterated on them.

Perhaps there’ll be some with an idea they wanted to try, but hadn’t quite got up the courage to ask for yet. Week five is their final opportunity. Lucky me, to be the one with whom they seize it.

Above all, by the time we reach week five of gang bang club, the men who might have only vaguely known each other at the start are now intimately acquainted.

Felix knows that Dan is good at bondage, so he positions my body and pins me down to make sure Dan can secure me nice and tight. Dan knows that Rob likes anal, so he taunts me with that info in the early stages of the evening: ‘you’d better open that slutty mouth or I’ll let Rob take your ass right here and now’. Nathan knows how much I love to be pissed on, and by this point he understands the group well enough that he knows which guys might be open to doing it. Tim knows that Felix likes to mess people up and trash them, so although he’s not into watersports like Nathan is, he casually hands Felix a beer to wash off the piss.

When we’re fucking, they pass me back and forth with practiced ease – sometimes playfully jostling for prime position in my cunt, other times taking turns. Frequently exchanging backslaps and filthy cameraderie, commenting on what a slut I am and how it’s lucky they saved me for last. As easily as they offer each other beers or Viagra or a toke on that spliff, so they offer me up for the next guy to fuck or slap or spit on or humiliate. Talking over me and about me but to each other: no longer nervous acquaintances, now actual friends.

In week one you get the joy of being ‘first’, drinking in the thrill of novelty and gorgeously nervous enthusiasm. You get gang banged by five separate men whose draw is that they still cannot quite believe their luck.

By week five, these guys have bonded. No longer individuals politely trying to share the feast that’s on offer, but a group that works in unison to enjoy every bite of me together. Not worrying about their personal contributions or mis-steps, they now understand that my destruction is a collaborative effort – the whole has become far greater than the sum of its filthy parts.

In week one you get fucked by five separate men.

In week five, you get fucked by a team.