“I didn’t get to shag her.”
“Why did she turn you down?”
“What?”
“Umm, dude, you did at least ask her, didn’t you?”
How the living fuck do you expect to ever get laid if you don’t ask women to shag you? This is a growing problem. I’ve met men – beautiful, confident men – who’ll umm, and err, and wait until both my hands are inside their trousers before they’ll finally admit that yes, they’re probably going to get laid.
I even once had a guy – a supposedly dominant guy, for the love of Christ – who beat me with a wire coathanger until I cried, stripped me naked then fingered me so vigorously I nearly pissed in his hands, and still – still – had to ask my permission before he gave me the fuck I’d been begging for since we first met.
Part of this is the fault of aggressive, rude, “I’m out of your league” women, who leave some men’s confidence so battered after an approach that it’s surprising they can walk upright. I’ll come to this in another post – women who do this deserve far more of my wrath than I’m willing to give right now.
What’s getting me right now is the weird attitude of the guys who do this. They see sex as a gift that women might deign to give them if they’re just impressive enough, just kind enough, just sexy enough. They feel like they have to earn it. They don’t seem to realise that women often want sex too – just for its own sake.
A woman no more ‘lets you’ have sex with her than you ‘let people’ give you birthday presents.
Related posts:
- On nice guys, hard truths, and the Friend Zone
- On how to ask nicely
- On the worst things to say on a dating site
Part-time writer, full-time pervert.
“They see sex as a gift that women might deign to give them if they’re just impressive enough, just kind enough, just sexy enough. They feel like they have to earn it.”
YES!!! Sex is indeed something the women holds and allows the man to try. Well I am a virgin in his mid-twenties so I have no personal experience regarding this, but you just had so much right in this post. And yes some women are very mean, and that makes it even harder for us guys with little to no self confidence to go for a girl.
Most women get really upset if you ask for sex, after being rejected a heap blokes stop asking. You represent a very small minority of women who are sexpositive and up for being asked. Sure most women would love to be asked – hypothetically – by some A list actor / sports star / super hero / villan / billionaire – but not by an average guy. Not for a get your rocks off fuck with no house and vacation to France thrown in to the request.
Dance with a lass in the pub, share a joke or three and ask for a fuck – 99/100 times she’ll shot you down.
You don’t know haw good you have it.
I know – I fucked a lot of men in my time – I’m not into men mind, but wanting fuck and women being what they are it’s always been easier to go into town (Sydney for me) to a bath house and have anonymous sex with several blokes or cruse a bar and get taken home, you might even ask the guy his name in the morning.
This is the sex I have had. I have never met a woman who has anything like an interest in that kind of sex but given the chance most blokes are.