Top of the list of ‘things I never expected to write’: butt plugs for men. Why? Well, because we all have butts, and the things which plug them will plug them the same no matter what your gender. In the course of my everyday life, I’d be as likely to utter the phrase ‘male butt plugs’ as I would to walk up to a Starbucks counter and order a ‘female caramel latte.’
I get a tonne of search traffic to this blog with variations on that phrase: ‘male butt plugs’, ‘butt plugs for men’ and the like. So just in case you’re wondering: yes, men can use butt plugs too. And what’s more, if you’ve come here via search, I reckon there are more guys who use butt plugs than you think.
Perhaps because I’m a sex blogger, people have a habit of telling me things they wouldn’t tell anyone else. What’s more, I’ve always been pretty open with my partners (read: slaveringly excited to hear about their kinks), so the chances that they’ll give me delicious detail about their butt-plug-wank shenanigans are fairly high. Sure, I’m also probably going to move in more circles where men have experimented with butt play, but whatever: if you’re a dude who’s come to this page searching for ‘butt plugs for men’ then I want to do two things:
- Enlighten you
- Excite you.
Ready? OK, then let’s do what butt plugs never should, and get stuck in.
Can men use butt plugs?
Yes. Y. E. S. Or ‘hell yes’ if you prefer.
If I were inclined, I could rage on for hours about the frustrating ways in which society tries to put men off using sex toys – implying that masturbators like Fleshlight are shameful, for instance. Fewer people are asking the question ‘does using a butt plug affect my sexuality?’ because it’s the 21st century, and we all know that you cannot bum yourself gay. However, I have had guys ask me if using butt plugs on their own makes them ‘weird’ or if it’s the sort of thing they should be nervous about telling a female partner.
I’d love to answer that with ‘no, you absolutely shouldn’t be nervous about telling a partner’, however there are layers and layers of ingrained weirdness about sex toys in our society – anal ones in particular – so if you’re worried that a partner might think you odd, please do send them to this page. And if you’re a partner and you’re reading this, please take careful note of the next section:
Butt plug + man = holy shit I’ll be in my bunk
Watching a guy use a butt plug while he has a vigorous wank is… how can I put it? So hot it makes my eyes water. It’s distractingly sexy enough watching someone I fancy grip his cock in his fist and beat away like he’s trying to pull the damn thing off. But if you add a butt plug into the mix – the look of surprise and delight on his face when he slides it in with lubed-up fingers, or the way he’ll wriggle slightly to get it touching just the right spots? Yeah, damn. That is smoking hot.
Now, like all sexy things, this isn’t universal: it might not float your particular boat. But know this: as a general rule, if you’re a horny person, watching someone you fancy doing something they love will be a pretty awesome turn on. And if you cast aside the opportunity to watch your loved one (or just ‘fancied one’) having a wank with a butt plug just because of some residual fear that it’s icky, then I think you’re missing out. Think about embracing it, even if it’s just the one time – to see if it floats your boat. Not everyone likes ice cream, after all, but you might as well have a taste if the truck stops on your street.
Male butt plugs versus female butt plugs
They’re the same.
Butt plugs for men: sex tricks
OK, I’m going to tell you my two favourite butt plug sex tricks here, so please use them wisely and frequently, and enjoy the fuck out of them.
Tip the first: sex on a chair. Insert butt plug into guy (or get him to insert butt plug for himself if that’s easier) then place guy on comfortable chair. When he’s happy that the plug is sitting tightly and comfortably inside him, sit down hard on his cock and ride him like you’re about to win the pony trials.
Tip the second: missionary sex. Bear with me: missionary is much-maligned and actually a fucking brilliant position in which to shag. Take your male butt plug (again, remember that it’s the same as a female butt plug: they’re all the same) and insert it into your willing male. Then, start fucking in missionary position. While you’re in position, grab a belt, or a length of rope, or the tie that one of you wears to work, and thread it between his legs so that it runs down the crack of his arse. Can you see where this is going? Of course you can. With one end of the belt in each hand, you can tug gently (or hard – depending on what he’s up for) while he’s fucking you, so that not only do you hammer the strokes of his dick in harder, you also nudge the plug a little further in each time, giving him an exciting frisson of sensation.
And here’s a link if you’re done with the instruction manual, but you’d like to read a couple of butt plug sex stories in more lubed-up, dribbling detail.
Butt plugs for men vs butt plugs for women
They’re the same.
Different types of butt plug
I’ll level with you here: I’m not a sex toy expert. I just know what I like shoving in me, rubbing on me, or waving around in the air shouting ‘I AM THE GOD OF SEX.’ What I will tell you, though, is that all butt plugs should necessarily come with a flared base (so they don’t get lost in you), and that the best butt plug for you is one which is comfortable and sexy. Don’t just go for the biggest because you like a challenge – I have done this before and it ends in tears. You can read that word in two ways, I know.
Below are a few suggestions – they all go through my sponsor, SexToys, but other retailers are available of course. I’m mainly listing them out here to show you that there are loads of different types of butt plug on the market and none of them are explicitly gendered.
- Basic silicone butt plug
- Ridged silicone butt plug
- Large butt plug
- Vibrating butt plug
- Metal butt plug
- Glass butt plug (this is my favourite, because there’s something about the hardness of glass and the fact that it’s more of a challenge to get in. What can I say? I’m competitive)
- Stone butt plug (I don’t have one of these yet but holy GOD does it look awesome)
Butt plugs for gentlemen vs butt plugs for ladies
Again: they’re the same. Butt plugs have a lot in common with other enjoyable things, such as tea, wine, or Nutella:
- You can put them in your body no matter what your gender.
- Different people will enjoy them to different degrees.
- They can make sex more interesting.
- You can use them when you wank.
- Once you’ve finished enjoying them, you have to do some washing up.