There’s usually a moment during a fuck where I can sense a change in pace from the dude who is fucking me: a slight increase in speed, or a pause, that can mean he’s on the verge of coming. At this point, what I really want to do is start begging for cum. Tell him ‘please god yes fucking squirt your cum inside me.’ But it’s a pretty risky strategy.
Sidenote: I’m using ‘cum’ for the substance, even though I utterly detest the spelling ‘cum’, but I will maintain ‘come’ for the actual act of coming because you’ll have to pry the phrase ‘he came inside me’ out of my cold, dead cunt.
Begging for cum: the case for
I really love it when people come inside me. It is one of my favourite parts of a fuck. I know not all fucks have to end in orgasm, and great sex can be had even if no orgasm occurs for anyone involved, but still – I like it. Let’s call it a kink. I like the sensation of someone’s dick twitching as they pump their spunk inside me. I like the grunty-hot noises they often make when they do it. If we’re not using condoms, I like lying there afterwards feeling jizz drip out of me and remembering the face they pulled when they shot their bolt.
I like it.
And in my (albeit recently very limited) experience, sometimes begging for someone’s cum – please fucking shoot inside me, please give me your cum, I want you to fill me with spunk, etc etc – gives them that extra nudge to tip them over the edge. It may not be for everyone, but some guys really like it when I whimper and beg for their cum.
Thus: begging for cum can become a neat orgasm trigger, and me pleading for it helps the waves of orgasm start to crash, which in turn means I get hot just from saying the fucking words because I’m excited about the effect they will have. Begging is fun for me, and sometimes jizz-triggering for the other person.
So far, so simple. Except…
Begging for cum: the case against
Sex, as a general rule, is best when there’s no pressure. Just as you don’t get someone over erectile dysfunction by yelling ‘GET HARD NOW PLEASE’ so you can sometimes ruin an orgasm by insisting someone try to have one. I definitely won’t come if someone just tells me ‘I’m gonna count down from ten to one and when I reach one you’ll come for me’, and in fact I am royally fucked off with how often this is used as a trope in BDSM sex – as if the dominant has literal magical powers and the sub is merely a tool he can turn on and off with the flick of a switch.
Begging for cum isn’t quite the same thing – it’s a request rather than a demand. But it’s not a request that arrives sans pressure: I flatter myself that if I get into the zone of this and really let myself go, the way in which I plead for someone to shoot hot torrents of spunk deep inside me is tricky to interpret as a mere suggestion.
So I’ve introduced pressure. I have suddenly hurled a giant rock of intimidation into what was previously a fun fuck, and thus potentially knocked him a step back from coming at all.
And talking dirty is hot and fun – I like to tell people how good their dick feels, ask them to hurt me, tell them they’re so fucking hard and they’re fucking me so deep it feels so good unngh yeah fuck oh God yeah more please harder… but I’ve never felt it would be a good idea to whisper ‘don’t lose your erection’ in someone’s ear partway through. I’m worried that begging for cum might fall a teeny way into that category.
Am I being like one of those doms who instructs someone to orgasm at the end of a countdown? Am I piling pressure on to someone at the moment they most need me to back off? Or is the knife-edge of begging for cum hot partly because of this uncertainty?
Either way, it’s hard to resist. Because at the end of the day I just really want your cum.
I won’t throw a petulant strop if you can’t quite give it to me yet, but I will enjoy asking if you’re up for it: gimme.