5 years’ of sex blogging: the numbers and more

This is one of the first pictures I ever uploaded when I started sex blogging. I love it as much today as I did then.

It’s been five years since I started this blog. Which is fucking bizarre when I sit down and think about it. Five entire years of my life – that’s nearly 16% of my time on this planet – has been spent sex blogging. For nearly three of those years being ‘Girl on the Net’ has been my full-time job.

So this post might be a bit meta and involved for some of you, but for others who are either sex blogging already or thinking of setting out, I wanted to give you as honest an overview as I can of what 5 years’ of sex blogging looks like. The numbers, the lessons learned, the mistakes and the occasional successes. Here goes.

5 years’ of sex blogging: the numbers

I started blogging on September 22nd 2011. Since then, I’ve published 691 blog posts. They’re not all total filth – to give you an idea there are 247 filed under the category ‘filthy ones‘, 232 ranty ones, 99 under ‘the human body‘ category and 138 guest posts. Some posts overlap in more than one category, so don’t try to do maths on this, it will hurt your brain.

Sex blog traffic and stats

Since launch, over 3.4 million people have stopped by, creating a total of 4.7 million sessions and 10.2 million pageviews.

My most popular post ever (this one on sleep sex) has had over 260,000 pageviews. My least popular post has had around 400 pageviews (it’s this one about Eroticon 2017, which you should definitely check out if you are interested in more of the nerdy details around sex blogging, and ironically now I’ve linked it will lose its place as least visited).

When I first started blogging – and if I’m honest every single day since – one of my greatest heart’s desires was to know what other people’s traffic was. I am constantly evaluating what I do to try and work out if it’s good enough. Like, yeah, I posted something yesterday that got retweets but how many retweets equals success? How many clicks is enough?

I don’t have the answer to that question, and I worry that the answer is the same as when I asked my friend how many more people she’d like to have kissed before she got married: one more. Always one more. It’s vital – though I can’t work out why – to keep chasing more. Traffic, clicks, retweets, comments. Anything and everything that could conceivably be used to measure whether I’m good enough. And I realise it sits in that murky grey area between ambition and obsession, and that isn’t always healthy.

On top of that, though, there’s the vague feeling that talking about numbers is crass. I spoke to another sex blogger recently who confessed to me that while she wanted to talk about things like money and traffic – because it’s helpful to other bloggers to do so (and it is – it really is) – she didn’t want it to seem like she was boasting. She nailed something I feel too. Alongside the constant nagging guilt that I’m not quite good enough, I also struggle to talk about the things I’m proud of, because to say ‘I’m proud of this’ sounds crass and narcissistic.

But for what it’s worth, while it’s never enough, after five years I really am proud of this.

Here’s me, as measured by Google.

Girl on the Net traffic all time from Sept 2011 to Sept 2016

Visits from Sep 2011 to Sep 2016

Where do my sex blog visitors come from?

Of those who have visited, around 35% are from the UK, 30% from the US (although this is an average over all time – now far more of my traffic comes from the States, I’m not sure why). I won’t go through the whole list, but I’ll pick out a few things because they’re fun. My blog’s been accessed 185,000 times by people in India. At least, according to Google Analytics. 44,000 times in Kenya. 2000 in Iceland. 8000 in Japan. 

This genuinely blows my mind, and isn’t really something I’d considered before. At any given moment, somewhere in the world, someone is reading this blog. Which is pretty cool.

Other fun sex blog numbers

Over the last five years this blog’s attracted 10,284 published comments. That’s not including ones that were trashed or spam (my spam folder currently holds 99,842). I rarely consign comments to the dustbin, but of those I do the top 3 reasons are:

  • Giving identifiable details.
  • Being a prick to one of my guest bloggers.
  • Libel.

Sex blogging: other numbers

While I’m obsessed with traffic numbers, there are plenty of other numbers which I should probably pay more attention to:

  • 3. Number of years since I gave up my day job. It’s been a rocky road, but a massively rewarding one.
  • 4. Number of times I got to say ‘porn’ on Woman’s Hour the other week.
  • 708. Number of dick pics I received before I stopped counting and had to start begging people not to send them any more.
  • 3. Number of times I’ve attended Eroticon, which is the event that made my freelance life possible.
  • 13. Number of people who have listed me as a fetish on Fetlife.
  • 1. Number of times I literally got to go to AMERICA because I ran this blog. Thanks Woodhull people for being amazing, and Doxy for sending me.
  • 2. People I met through the blog who I ended up fucking.
  • 7. People I met through the blog who I now count among my closest friends. And I don’t really have that many friends, so this number is pretty high.

Questions about sex blogging

I offered to answer anyone’s questions about sex blogging if they fancied asking some, and as ever was genuinely surprised to find that people did. So here goes – a few questions from Twitter, and I’m trying to take a fairly chilled approach to the rest of this week as a reward for doing five years of non-stop waffling, so I’ll be around to answer other questions in the comments if you have them.

How has your blog changed in 5 years? And/or would you do any part of it differently?

Oh God there is SO MUCH I would do differently. Some boring practical sex blogging things like the name (let’s face it: Girl on the Net is a shit name and is not really fit for purpose) and other boring practical things like email newsletter and Facebook page (I started both of these very late, so I’m still playing catch-up).

But on a proper, thoughtful level, I would be a less judgmental writer. Some of my first posts were appallingly narrow-minded. There were also a few that were unforgivably bad. I hate going back and editing things after the fact to make it look like I wasn’t ignorant, but I do sometimes go and add caveats/shoutouts at the beginning of a post if I think they need them. Please be gentle if you stumble on awful old posts, though: everyone has to learn, innit.

I think (hope) that my blog now is more thoughtful than it was when I started, and I think I’m also a lot more aware of issues surrounding it. As a result, I’m often a bit more tentative – less prone to making sweeping statements, and definitely more wary of talking about certain things. This isn’t me saying ‘oh I have to be so nervous now because the PC BRIGADE might LEAP ON ME’ – I’ve learned things, and I think (hope) it’s made me a better writer.

The other thing that’s changed is largely down to one other person: @Chainbear – aka Stuart F Taylor – who draws beautiful illustrations for me every week, and has been doing so since June 2014 (his first image was this one – on first time pegging). Each week he surprises me with a sexy take on the idea I’ve sent him, and he’s always keen to try and represent more different body types than you usually see in the sexy pics that are published in mainstream media. He enhances this blog, and challenges me, and generally makes this blog a better place. I think bringing him on board was the best thing I ever did, and I am immensely grateful to him for everything he does.

You can see a selection of his SFW images below, or more images here.
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Do you write for yourself or your audience?

Kudos to the asker of this deliciously wanky question. I would love to say that the answer is ‘both’ – I write the things I love, and I hope my audience will like them. But if I’m to dig really deep within my soul and examine the gruesome mess that lies within, I suspect the answer is ‘audience.’ Given my obsession with numbers, I have to consider this: would I genuinely keep writing even if no one would ever read it? No.

What’s more, if I were writing purely for myself, I suspect I’d end up with a mish-mash of angsty poetry, limericks about penises, and only the occasional gem of an actual blog post.

What are your favourite things that you’ve done/created/started in the past 5 years, blog-wise?

Ooh, lots! I am massively pleased with both the write your orgasm and draw your orgasm competitions – they were so much fun and the entries were amazing. My Doxy massager review remains one of my favourite blog posts ever, mostly because of the noises embedded in it (which are 100% genuine, by the way).

A lot of my other favourite things are bits that have been started by the blog but ended up elsewhere: books, for instance, or interviews and writing elsewhere. I once got an entirely gender-neutral ‘sex position tips’ article onto a very mainstream website, which I was really chuffed with at the time.

But sometimes it’s the little things that are the most pleasing:

This tweet:

Oh, and this one:

Where do you see yourself in the next 5 years, blog/writing-wise?

OK, so someone else asked me ‘what’s next’ and I’m going to roll those two answers into one: the near future and the future-future.

Near future: I’m going to focus a bit more on fiction (like the wedding night fuck, or ‘Sin‘), because there are some things I’ve done in real life that I can’t write about without fictionalising. And while I do have some more real life sex stories to tell, the dynamics of them are more complicated and require a lot more cautiousness around getting consent of the people involved. So… watch this space and see if I can write them well enough to justify those people putting their trust in me to publish them.

I’m also helping to run Eroticon. And now I can see why every year Ruby swore never to do it again because it’s HARD. I’m incredibly excited about it, though, and it’s going to be amazing. Come along if you’re a sex writer – or if you’d like to be.

I also have some more boring plans that involve commercialising the blog. Right now, I make exactly £0 from it each month: all my money comes from contract work, freelance writing or book royalties. That’s not because I haven’t had offers, it’s just because the offers I’ve had would involve far too many banner ads and flashy gifs, and I can’t quite bring myself to do it. But I do need to pay my mortgage, so please forgive me if you start seeing a few more brand names on these pages. I hope that the extra stuff I’ve got planned makes it worthwhile.


I would like to work fewer hours. Writing, blogging, emailing, invoicing, meeting people, and other things take up around 70 hours each week at the moment. In five years’ time I hope I’ll be able to work about half that amount, but for the same money, and then spend the other half of the time drinking cocktails that I’ve bought with my ill-gotten gains.

On top of that, I have a couple of super-exciting potential projects in the works, which frustratingly I’m not allowed to tell you about on the grounds that they might not happen. But watch this space (or subscribe to blog updates in the top right hand corner). I suspect in 5 years I’ll have written another book or two as well, because writing books is fun.

Oh, and ideally I’d love to have learned how to squirt. And get fisted. And successfully achieved double penetration in a way that isn’t technically a cheat.

Sex blogging: lessons learned

I’ve learned a million things since I started here, but I’m going to try and keep this list short.

Write loads. The excellent thing about sex blogging is that there’s no limit on how much you can write. If you want to post every single day for a month, go for it. Some of your stuff will be great, some will be rubbish. Don’t worry about being perfect first time around. People will generally remember the good stuff you wrote and quickly forget the posts that were boring or missed the mark. I’ve written at least twice a week, every week, since the very beginning.

Don’t run competitions. I know when people have blogging anniversaries they usually run competitions with loads of free cool stuff, but honestly running competitions is a nightmare and involves a lot of admin. And then even when you do manage to do it right you’ll end up paying fifty quid to ship a random thing halfway round the world. And the people who didn’t win it will be annoyed, and the people who couldn’t enter will be annoyed, and everyone will hate you. This one’s tongue in cheek, by the way: feel free to run competitions if you like. Just don’t say I didn’t warn you.

Get boundaries and stick to them. Some of the most stressful things that have happened to me over the time I’ve been blogging have been the result of my own desperate need to be polite rather than firm.

Help other writers. When I started sex blogging I was always nervous/envious when I saw other writers being fucking incredible. I would worry that they were so much better than I was, that my own work was nothing in comparison to theirs. I still, to be honest, read some other blogs and think ‘shit. You’re so much better than me. I should panic.’ Those are useless thoughts, though, because it’s not like one person’s talent takes away from what you’ve done. In fact, the more brilliant sex writing there is out there, the greater our collective power to change the world.

Take the time to reflect on what you’ve done. I’ll be honest: I’m still learning this one. I rush so quickly from one thing to the next, impatient for the next bit of excitement, that I rarely spend time looking back. If you’d told me when I published my first posts that in five years’ time I’d have this many visitors, 2 books and an actual honest-to-god career I’d have laughed.

But I have, and it’s all down to you, and I’m incredibly grateful.

Thank you.



  • Jubi says:

    Glad that the people of my country have visited you that many times. Always been a fan of your work and I respect you. Hats off and congrats!

    From the land of Kamasutra.

  • Smurphboy says:

    Massive round of applause from us all.

    I really love your writing, not just because some of it requires me to bookmark the page, open it later somewhere I can handle myself, and wank like a gibbon over it. I love your writing because it makes me think more about my sex life, which has got to be a good thing!

    Happy blogiversary,


  • Jillian Boyd says:

    Congratulations, dearest GOTN – you are a wonderful human and it’s been a pleasure to get to know you over these past few years. Also, HOLY SHIT THAT ADAM RICHMAN TWEET.

    • Girl on the net says:

      I KNOW RIGHT! I nearly fainted! =) And thank you. You’re awesome and all x

      • Mia More says:

        Man, like TOTALLY: smother me in crappy American cheese sauce with a side of fries and serve me right up to him! Fucking epic tweet. Nice one Hon!
        And also heartfelt well done on all your hard work: wonderful to see you doing so bloody brilliantly. Hoping to make it to Eroticon this year, and sending you much love and ting in the meantime!

  • Joseph says:

    What caused that incredible spike in viewers early on? Both what post it was, and do you know how it got to the audience?

  • Hillary says:

    By my reckoning that is 5 years well spent. Would that all humanity could make that much difference with a sixteenth of our allotted lives!

  • Rebecca says:

    I am a happy chappie, I have been reading you for ages today. I love seeing how it has evolved and particularly loved about how many times you mentioned the word porn.

  • Just wanted to add bang goes my weekend, I shall be digesting and reading and enjoying

  • Ani says:

    Congratulations!!! I’m going to hit 1 year in January (February?) and I’m pretty excited.

  • Joachim says:

    “Since launch, over 3.4 million people have stopped by
    2. People I met through the blog who I ended up fucking.”

    So you’re telling me there’s a chance?

    • Girl on the net says:

      Haha, no sorry. I always swore I would not fuck anyone I met through the blog, it’s just that a couple of people turned into my friends, who I then had sex with. I don’t meet *anyone* who only knows me through the blog now, save a few sex bloggers at events like Eroticon.

  • Lilly says:

    So happy you got to come to America to hang out with us! I like to stay in compettition with myself when it comes to my traffic numbers but over my 8 years Ive’ had 2 stats trackers die out on me so I’m totally bummed that I don’t have any good numbers. All I know for sure is that in the last 2 years I’ve had 3.3 million views. So mad I don’t have better numbers! Ah well.

    I feel like the pressure to have a giveaway is higher when your primary sex blog content is sex toy reviews but maybe that’s just my perception. But oh gods I wish there were less of them overall, Twitter is nearly collapsing under the weight of giveaway tweets these days. Giveaways really hard damn hard work. And I feel compelled to check nearly every entry, too, because in my mind that’s the only way that picking a winner is fair, if I’ve gotten rid of the invalid entries.

    I need to relax, I think.

    • Girl on the net says:

      Ah yes I totally feel your pain re: checking every entry. I’m similar, and I get myself in a tangle about fairness because I always want to make sure everything’s done fairly, but then the sheer amount of time it can take to make that so means comps are often not worth it. If there were a company that I could pay a small subscription to so they could manage comps on my behalf (and send out prizes), I would probably do it. But then – as mentioned above – I’m not great at business so it would basically just be me pouring more money down the drain =(

      Boo to stats trackers giving up on you – but OMG yay for that many views! Well deserved because you’re awesome =) I genuinely can’t imagine the depths of my sadness if I couldn’t measure numbers any more, or had to start all over again. A project I’m working on at the moment has a weird stats gap in Google Analytics for 6 months and it is the most frustrating thing. This might be partly because I used to work in digital marketing, and I had a manager who used to repeatedly tell me that ‘if you can’t measure it, it never happened.’ Obviously *not true* but a very tricky thing to shake!

  • rare deeds says:

    You can hide behind all of the numbers you want, Girl – but it’s really not about the quantity, it’s about the quality.

    We keep coming (back), because you are such a good writer.

    And you write really well across all the different types of post – your rants are as funny & as provocative as your filthy ones are horny &, well, provocative…& equally well written.


  • The quiet one says:

    Is that 3.4 million individuals? That’s a lot!

    I love the idea of giving up the day job for something you enjoy.

    Bravo GOTN x

  • Lola & HH says:

    Great job! Keep it up!

  • David says:

    Hi been reading your blog for ages. So nice to see how you have grown it to something that you could give up your day job for. It funny when I say job in your comments I think blow, but I’m going to keep focused here!

    I’m starting a blog also, not in the sex blog area. I am in my early days and every is saying you need to get back links etc to grow your site and also grow your email list. Just wondering what you did to grow it, and also seo tips etc?

    Massively love the blog, and every time I read it, feel the need to bang one out!

  • David says:

    whoops sorry posted twice!

  • Johnny K. says:

    I read your blog, and your enthusiasm for blowjobs…and it makes me utterly sad. I have never met a girl that sucks dick. I have had 1 girlfriend that “half-heartedly” licked it a bit.

    My fantasy being to be deepthroated and to throat fuck (my cock isn’t huge so this shouldn’t be a problem) makes this fact of my life even more devastating. The absolute #1 thing I want to do before I do is throat fuck, I turned 30 in 2016, and it hasn’t happened.

    Why aren’t more women like you???!?!

    Either way, love the blog, love your no-fucks-given style. You are awesome and anyone in your life is VERY lucky (and I’m not just talking about lovers, although they are EXTRA lucky I’d say).

    • Girl on the net says:

      Hey – thanks. I’m glad you like my blog, although I’m not a massive fan of the question ‘why aren’t more women like you??” – while it initially comes across as flattering, in fact there are a hell of a lot of things about me that don’t make it to this blog, and which certainly piss off my friends and loved ones. What’s more, there might be lots of women who want to suck dick/throatfuck, but might be put off if the way you ask it is to complain that what they’ve done up until now is half-hearted.

      This might be worth reading: https://www.girlonthenet.com/2014/12/14/where-are-the-pervy-women/

      • Johnny K. says:

        Haha right on! I hear ya, I never once put down a woman for being…not interested in the act. I’ve always loved who I was with and just dealt with it.

        My experience with conversing with most of (if not all of) the women I know about blowjobs usually ended up with them mentioning how much they do it because they feel they “have to” because they are “expected to” in this day and age. I have never spoken to another woman, even some I consider a little “frisky” and “bubbly” when it come to sexual stuff, speak of blowjobs in a positive light, at least not beyond the fact that it’s just something to make their man happy. Never anything about them actually enjoying it though.

        So with all that said, from my own experience hearing from all kinds of women with all kinds of different outlooks on sexuality, I have yet to find a woman that speaks about it the way you do in my real life.

        So with my background there, I hope you see I didn’t mean anything other than, “to me, it’s rare to hear such talk of fellatio the way you do, and I wish more women I knew/met would feel the way you do about it”, that’s all I meant and I apologize if it came out another way or offensive.

        Further regarding the “more women like you” sentiment, I’m of course strictly speaking to a small part of what make you…you, And I intended to only commend you on that particular part of “you” when I said such a thing. I’m not trying to put you in a box and pigeon hole you into a “dick sucking queen” with no other redeeming value and also not putting you on a pedestal as some flawless goddess just because you enjoy deepthroat. I never meant it that way (sorry that was a long winded way of me just asking you not to read too much into that “compliment” I gave, and to just take it at face value). Again, sorry if I offended.

        This is all before I read the blog post you suggested here, but do you not find that women with your views on such things like blowjobs to be few and far between? Let me get on reading that one post ASAP, because maybe I’ll answer my own question there.

        Thanks again for taking your time to reply. Another great thing is how involved you are with your readers. It’s great. If my friends weren’t a little prude-ish, I would definitely be passing this blog along, haha.

  • Nyssa says:

    Hello GOTN!

    I’m Nyssa and I honestly am not sure if you’ll receive this comment. I am starting my own anonymous blog and I don’t even have an email address to communicate with you properly.

    This adventure is only about 2 weeks old but for the first time in my entire existence, I am wholeheartedly excited to share this journey. it would be the greatest if I could run by some ideas by you. I have a domain and the name of my alter ego but mostly about anonymity. If it was just me, I wouldn’t think twice but I have a family to think about.

    The idea for my blog is from the perspective of well… something I would love to discuss some stream of consciousness ideas.

    Take care

  • Sandra says:

    Some impressive stats. I hope I’ll be there someday. Any updates for 2019?

    Thanks for sharing!

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